Being Toxic Ain't Cool

As we age, we are learning something in life. Experiences are the best lesson we ever learn because life is a hard core teacher. When we were young, we don’t care how the real world revolves, all that matters to us is we get to play with our favorite toys and we eat our favorite foods. But as we grow older, we encounter deeper things that take us to who we are today.

There is a huge difference between a toxic personality and a genuine one. Sometimes we are leading to the misconception that toxicity is basically being genuine. “Oh you can’t change me, this is who i really am” but there you are bossing everybody around making other people choose you over themselves. You’re making everyone do what fulfills your wants and needs without considering what they might feel. You try to make them something or someone that they don’t even want. That’s toxic. You’re toxic. We all have toxic people in our lives and we don’t want to let them strangle us with their manipulative schemes. Don’t allow toxicity to rule our lives. And don't let toxic people rule you. You can always walk away from the things that makes you miserable. You can always cut ties with people who keeps you but doesn't know how to value you. Even if they're your family, boyfriends/girlfriends, friends, workmates, etc. You have a choice whether to stay in a suffocating environment that can kill you or move to somewhere fresh and helps you grow. I know it's hard but it is right. It is okay to feel sad after doing the right thing. Don't keep your self from living the life that you deserve just because you don't want to hurt those people who are constantly hurting you. If you need to be honest, then be honest. Don't be afraid to tell the truth and stand for yourself. Sometimes the only person that is stopping you from being happy and free is you, not those people who grip their hands around you.

Sometimes, we tend to let emotions devour our mind to the point that we don't notice that it is already changing us not in a good way. We change ourselves believing that is is the best thing to do but leads you to the opposite direction. We meet people and know them by chance there will remarkable moments in our life either good or bad experience that will build or destroy us. Changing is good not unless you let yourself stuck in that theory of yours wherein all you know is to cage yourself without noticing that's already toxic. You've already know how toxicity works in life so why live like it. Being toxic doesn't make you pretty, it makes you ugly. Laughing at other people's faults and playing the victim ain't cute. It never hurts to tell people what you really feel but always be cautious on our emotions and watch out for what we think because it blinds us and leads us to the wrong direction. We live in a world where in irrational behavior is a trend but don't go with the flow. Instead, go against the flow. Be fair and be open. Learn to accept corrections and don't connect it to your worth as a person. And don't be quick to take any offense and start blabbering back, that's not gonna help. Don't define toxicity as a form of being genuine. Toxic values what people have but genuine values the person itself. We can't change someone's behavior, that is not our job but we can change ours. It all starts in ourselves and then the rest will follow. Pray to God for guidance and ask for heart that has compassion and love to people.

I am surrounded with amazing people that helps me grow and be a better version of myself but my life is not as perfect as a heart beating in a box. Unfortunately, i have some people in my life that i labeled as toxic. Those people who drags me down every time i strive to go up. Those people who unconsciously belittled me and doubted what i'm capable to do. Those people who tried to make me the way they wanted me to be. They are like fats that narrows the coronary artery that causes heart attack or like snakes that wraps itself around you. You see, toxic people are up to no good. And i am grateful that they are eliminated from my life, well at least most of them. It may sound harsh, but i'm glad that they are not part of my life anymore. Sometimes we need to let go people in order for us to stay healthy and sane. I mean, who would love to stay with an abusive, manipulative and self centered people? No one. Life is full of uncertainties and challenges. If you find yourself in a challenging relationship, it's okay. what's not okay is if it's hurting you and making you not you.

Let yourself breathe, live. And always be reminded that don't settle in a place where you feel unloved. Surround yourself with people who believes in you and supports you to reach your full potential. Be with people who will fill your cup until your cup runs over. And always love people the way you love yourself.