Dealing with Disappointments

In these difficult times, we are worried about what might happen to us. Quarantine got me thinking about my plans and my future. Too many questions. Unending what ifs. What if it's really not for me? What if it’s not gonna work out? Is it worth the risk? What if I fail? Can I handle another disappointment? And so on. I always doubt myself and on what I'm capable to do. I always wanted to be the best but there is this one person that keeps on giving me doubts. That if I think of an answer, she’ll give me another question. That person is me. I have dealt with so many disappointments in my life and been to the point where I couldn't trust myself anymore and stopped trying. I reject myself because i'm afraid to face other people's rejection. I cared too much of what other people might think that i forgot what God is thinking about me. I see my life as a package of disappointments. I can’t even remember what and when my first disappointment was. All I can remember is what I do when I encounter them. I ran home, shut the door and cry. That is always the cycle. Until something taught me something. Many of us see disappointment as a dead end. It feels like life is in the surface and we're stuck in a deep hole where there's no way out.

Life isn't really fair. That's the truth. When we expect the best, worst comes. People used to expect the best but now, they expect the worst. Why? Because of disappointments. They are scared to disappoint other people and to disappoint themselves. It steals the best from us. It hinders us to be the best version of ourselves. It's like throwing rocks at us every time we strive up, giving us tears and bruises. But have you realized that disappointment and failures helps us to achieve our success? Yes, they are. They play a major role towards our journey to victory. Yes we cry. Yes we breakdown. That's normal. I remember i was so frustrated and cried a lot when i got bruised when i was learning how to ride a bike. But instead of hating the bike, i was eager to learn more. And i just didn't learned how to ride a bike, i also learned a lot of things. Though it also gave me a lot of scars. But every time i see that scars, it reminds me of how brave i am to have it. We are unconsciously motivated and inspired to give more efforts for our goal when we encounter failures and disappointments. It's okay to cry over trying to solve math home works, or to the failed science experiments, or to the low grades in history class, as long as you learn something from it, you're one step closer to success. Don't stop. One day you'll find yourself holding a blueprint because you're now an engineer/architect or wearing a white coat with a stethoscope around your neck because you're now a doctor or whatever you like to be in the future.

You see, don't stop learning, don't stop trying and don't stop praying. That’s what i learn every time i fall. Because not only you will reach your goal, you also achieve a lot of things. And it's all worth it. It gives you a different kind of joy. The feeling is different when you accomplish something from nothing, when you reap what you've been struggling to sow. Don't forget the Lord. Pray and thank Him because He will show you the way when it seem like there's no way. Big things happens when we pray. Sometimes, God will bless us beyond our expectations. He will be with you and will always be with you. God also wants you to believe in yourself just like what He wants for me. We are all included in God’s great plan. And we are all working in progress. No matter what trials or disappoinment comes, He will help us turn them into triumph. Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you”, declared the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a bright future.” Hold on to that promise.

If life throws a rock at you, make that a ladder, a stepping stone towards victory. It's okay to fall, as long as you know how to stand up again. Your tears, pain and bruises will ignite your passion and your scars will remind you of how courageous you are. But don’t rush. Take your time. My lolo always remind me to take it easy. No one’s chasing you. One step at a time, don’t let pressure and negativities ruin the great future that is waiting for you.

It is not only about the destination nor only about the journey, it is about both of them. What you learn from the failures and disappointments in the journey will lead you to your destination. And your destination is not only your goal or your dream, it is also what you got from your journey, like people you will meet along the road that you will share your struggle with and become your family.

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